Saturday, September 13, 2014

We're Adopting!!!

Surprise!  Graham and I have begun the process to adopt from within the foster care system!

We have FINALLY told our families, so we can make the news public. All I can say is, this is such a relief! It's been difficult keeping the news from everyone, not only because of our own excitement over it, but also because of the difficulty of hiding the time spent at our GPS classes and the stacks of paperwork.

To say that we have a lot of paperwork is an understatement. My fellow adoptive/foster parents know perfectly well that just when you think you are done filling out forms, another stack appears. I'm sure domestic is not nearly as complicated as it is for those going the overseas route though!

Our adoption journey actually began around Christmas. We had met a few couples from church, one of which had just adopted three children from Ukraine. Adoption had been lurking in the back of my mind for some time, but I kept pushing it aside. I felt that if we were able to have biological children, why should we adopt? Wouldn't people think we were crazy for CHOOSING to adopt rather than have a baby? So I continued to ignore the adoption thoughts.

Several months went by before I finally got the courage to bring up the subject to Graham. I use the word courage because I'm an avoider. I avoid serious, embarrassing, emotional or any other uncomfortable conversations like the plague. Sooooo, one day I just blurted everything out. And you know what? It wasn't that bad! And he was actually excited about it!

And then we waited some more.....

Months went by, something always "coming up" or us making excuses. I spent most of that time Facebook messaging an old friend (who had also adopted), asking her tons of questions so that I could be as prepared as possible. She actually was the push that I needed for us to submit an inquiry, fill out the application, and sign up for our training class (literally a week before it started!).

So here we are, a few days away from our fourth of ten training classes, up to our eyeballs in paperwork and about to have our home study (let the cleaning BEGIN!). This whole process has been about as far out of my comfort zone as possible. At our classes, I've had to speak in front of a group of people, act in a skit, and do group activities. Everything about that scares me to death.  But it's worth it. We're learning so much about parenting children that have come from foster care. Their little lives have been filled with disappointment, with loss, with pain and sadness. Through these classes, we're learning how to help them, how to counsel them, and that we're not alone.

When I said before that we chose to adopt, what I should have said was that adoption chose us. It slowly worked its way into our minds, and even though I fought it, God worked it into our hearts.

Photos by my lovely friend Haley at:

Thanks to Jessica for answering so many questions!
Thanks to Prudence for inspiring us when you didn't even know it. Follow her blog and learn about their newest adoption journey at:


  1. I think it's awesome and you will be incredible parents!!!

  2. I'm so stinking excited!! I can't even process it even though I knew it was coming! The pictures are just FANTASTIC! (Side note, the cuffed jeans and booties are absolutely adorable, and I have to copy this!) You know we are here for you. Our processes will probably be nothing alike, but "the after" is just the same I'm sure! Praying for you guys! Love Love Love!!

  3. And I am excited to watch this journey on your blog!