Thursday, September 25, 2014

Cancelled appointments, a home visit & a stank eye

Last Wednesday (17th) was when our first home visit was scheduled.  I had worked all weekend on cleaning the house (knowing that they were not concerned with spotless, yet away I cleaned), and saved mopping the floors for the day of.  I had sent Graham out for lunch, and had literally just finished mopping when he got back with disappointing news.  The home visit had been rescheduled. I couldn't be too upset, because they were busy trying to find a foster home for kids that had just been brought into the office.  But still.  I was a tiny bit disappointed.  So we rescheduled for two days later on Friday afternoon.

Friday afternoon arrived.  And it was raining.  On the way home from work, the rain increased from a light drizzle to a straight up downpour.  I'm pretty sure at one point I looked to the heavens and gave God the "stank eye".  All I could think about was that now our social worker would hurry inside, not noticing the freshly manicured landscaping we had labored on.  Or that the dogs would be staring through the door, wet and muddy, forlornly gazing at us and making us look terrible (even though they have shelter from the rain!).  I was having a selfish day, to say the least.  And so you know what happened?  I came home, did some last minute cleaning, fixed my hair & makeup, changed clothes....and waited.  Graham came home early from work and so we sat, staring out the front window (it had stopped raining at this point), waiting on our social worker to arrive.  Thirty minutes past time, and still she wasn't here.  Eventually we were able to get in touch with her, to find out the same thing had happened.  No rescheduling at this point.

Monday evening we had our Week 5 class, which was on discipline.  We rescheduled for this past Wednesday (24th).  Our social worker made it this time, checked our house, chatted a bit and asked questions, and that was it!  Simple and painless :)

We did, however, get a slight timeline.  After our class ends in October, our social worker will have a final visit to our home to ask more questions, and then she will write up our file/report.  This can take up to 60 days.  After that, she sends all our information to the state office, where they will make the final approval.  We don't know how long that will take, but once we are approved, we can then move forward with looking for a child/children!

Looking back over the past two weeks, I'm glad that there were delays.  Lots of things were tested: my patience, my need for control and a plan, my selfish desires.  This process has brought up so many emotions and provided lots of self reflection.

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